Monthly Archives: November 2010

Frolicsome Fetish Photo Fridays
Frolicsome Fetish Photo Fridays avatar

Welcome to the beginning of a beautiful trend.  Each Friday I will be posting another fun, frolicsome, fetish focused photo I have taken at some point over the years.   They will never be work safe, but then this entire site is so far from work safe I really shouldn’t have to tell you that.

The following photo is of one of my past lovers and regular nude and erotic model, Aimee.  If you’ve seen my photography gallery site, you’ve seen this beautiful red head all over the place.

Enough words.  I know what all of you want.  So here.   Enjoy.

Verbalization in scene and other mysteries.
Verbalization in scene and other mysteries. avatar

Something I see on a lot of beginner’s forums in the BDSM community is the question of how to get a sub to tell you what she wants.  I also see subs asking how to tell her top what she wants.   These aren’t really the same question, but I’m going to deal with them both here; as well as the corollary question of how to tell your top/sub what you want.

Both SAM and I  talk a lot on here about communication.  Without it, what we do borders way too closely on abuse.  Being able to openly discuss uncomfortable, embarrassing or scary topics is a part of what makes our relationship as solid as it is.

There are two different places where communication is important.  In scene and out of scene.   In scene both of us need to be able to tell the other what is needed, to communicate mood, arousal, ideas, etc. Out of scene we must be able to talk to each other about what went right, what we enjoyed and most importantly what we didn’t enjoy or what went wrong; even if it wasn’t a safe-word situation.

Polyamory and Jealousy
Polyamory and Jealousy avatar

I know that as someone in a polyamorous marriage, I don’t get jealous of other people in my husband’s life. I get jealous of the demands on his time. Love is infinite; there is room for many loves in any person’s life. What is not infinite, however, is time.

I get very jealous of time he spends elsewhere – and it’s not always another person. I get jealous of time he spends blogging, or doing photo shoots, or computer animation, or even the time he spends at work.